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"If I met someone at a party and talked to them for just a little bit and asked for their number is it ok to ask them to hang out even though I really don’t know them?"
- Question submitted by Anonymous
I’m just… but… you … you just said.. YOU SAID THEY GAVE YOU THEIR PHONE NUMBER. SO THEY ARE INTERESTED IN HANGING OUT WITH YOU, BE IT FRIEND OR OTHERWISE.
Y’all. I am 100% one of these people, so no judgement. HOWEVER, why do we all meet people, want to hang, and never do anything about it? WHYYYYYYY. For me, I know it’s bc I’m hella self-conscious and I assume everyone thinks I am weird or dumb and I’m all “if they wanted to hang out with me they would ask.” Maybe that’s not where you’re at, but recently I’ve decided that if I think that thing, I’m wrong. USUALLY everyone is thinking that thing. You’re in your room staring at your phone and the human who gave you their number is like “I guess they asked for my number to be nice???”
Who does that? Who would ever ask for someone’s phone number just TO BE NICE. Once I met this girl who I thought was cool and I was like ‘we should hang out’ and she was like ‘ok i’ll give you my email’ and in my head, I was like “EMAIL, YOU’LL GIVE ME YOUR EMAIL?!?!” So, of course, I didn’t think she wanted to hang out, but whatever I emailed her and we immediately went to brunch like three days later and spent HOURS just talking about life and now we’re totally friends.
I don’t know why we all assume no one likes us. I really don’t, but I vote we all say “fuck it.” If you want to hang out with someone, just ask. Worst case scenario, they blow you off and (1) cool, you don’t want a flake friend anyway PLUS (2) you are literally just in the same position you’re in right now, you will still have the friends who love you and think you are the best.
Someone gave you their number.
People give other people things that they expect them to use.
This person gave you THEIR NUMBER.
USE IT AND DATE THEM, YES.
Here’s what you can do:
Send them a text that says, “Hey this is [YOURNAME] — we met at [THATPARTY] and you gave me your number. I figured it would make sense for me to use it, and now you have my number. Doooo you want to hang out sometime?”
They will respond: “I’d love to. Also, funniest thing… I just read this text message on Everyone Is Gay. Did you write to them about me?!”
You will turn purple, and it will be the best first-date joke in existence and you can invite us to your wedding.