“Dating is terrifying, I don’t want to do it but I have to because I want all the gushy romantic feelings. I feel like girls move so fast nowadays and I just want to get to know someone first. Why is it always all about sex?”
- Question submitted by Anonymous
OMG IT ISN’T. I PROMISE IT ISN’T.
It’s completely dependent on whether or not you and the person you want to potentially romance are on the same page. I know so many couples who didn’t have sex or even get super frisky until they were very deeply, emotionally, involved. It’s because that’s what they both wanted.
Everything in a relationship – moving in together, marriage, having kids, moving to a city, when to meet the parents, having sex, calling each other pet names, kissing, merging friend groups, etc etc I could go on forever… EVERYTHING in a relationship has to be a decision the two of you make together, which means you gotta be on the same page. You just gotta. If you’re starting to date someone and they’re trying to convince you to have sex earlier than you want, you shouldn’t be dating them. They’re not on the same page as you. If you’re on a first date with someone and they say it’s fucking ridiculous that you never want to have kids, you shouldn’t be dating them. They’re not on the same page as you.
LISTEN EVERYONE: You don’t have to date people that don’t get you. You don’t have to be in a relationship that makes you unhappy. You don’t have to kiss someone you don’t want to kiss. You should never be made to feel ridiculous for having thoughts, opinions, and your own set of internal morals. We are all constantly changing and growing and becoming who we are. If there is a person who is making you feel inadequate for the journey you’re on and the decisions you’re making, fuck that person. OR DON’T FUCK THAT PERSON I GUESS IS MY POINT.
You have GOT to be able to feel good about you in order to even begin to feel good about your relationship. Don’t kiss on someone who won’t let you feel good!
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