“here's my quesh! okay, so i'm kind of a ~big girl~, and i wasn't bullied in school or anything because of my weight, but my confidence still isn't very boombangin'. from my experience so far, there are a lot of lesbis who aren't too into us bigger girls & are in fact kind of grossed out by us. it's like...hurtful i guess, but more discouraging than anyone else. should i just suck it up and lose the weight or what? i mean yeah, i dunno...”
-Question submitted by justsomeapples-deactivated20110
Honestly, you have to do whatever makes you most confident. I know a ton of bigger girls that are lesboz, and I know a ton of girls who don’t care if someone is big. When it comes down to it, you have to be comfortable in your own skin. If you’re uncomfortable with your weight, maybe it is time to make a change. A lot of times it’s not necessarily that people are judgemental, or don’t like you, or think you’re gross, it’s the fact that YOU don’t feel good about yourself.
You can’t be completely happy and confident if you’re not feeling good about who you are and how you present yourself. Eating well and getting exercise just helps you feel good. I mean, even crazier, a lot of LGBTQ centers have dance lessons or cardio classes, so you can kill two birds with one stone!
Bottom line, if you love you, others will love you. If you don’t love you, you’re not even giving others the chance to love you.
You will always be able to find people (regardless of their sexuality) who are going to find it acceptable to say hurtful things about your appearance. To those people I say: go suck a bag of dicks.
The thing that you will find, though, is that when you are happy in your own skin, you’ll be able to shake your ass right in their judgmental faces and keep on keeping on – just as Dannielle said earlier.
The goal is for you to be happy with you. It sounds like your confidence was down before you heard any of those hurtful words; that is the bigger problem, and it needs attention. If you are exercising and eating healthy you will feel awesome, and that is all that matters to the people out there who are worth giving a damn about.