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"My girlfriend and I have had a rough year of long distance relationship arguing and making up. Now I’m back home for the summer, and things are better. However, I know when school starts so will the long distance problems. I wanted to wait till the end of summer to break up and stay friends but I made the mistake of mentioning it to her and she decided we should break up now and stay friends. What can I do to make this summer not awkward?”

- Question submitted by Anonymous and answered by Gabifresh as a part of Everyone Is Gay: Second Opinions

Gabi Says:

I speak from first hand experience when I say long distance relationships are HARD work, and sometimes it’s difficult to figure out if you’re just arguing with your significant other because you miss each other so much, or if there are deeper issues that need to be addressed. That said, the breakup-makeup cycle is a hard one to break, and usually indicates there may be some unhealthy things going on in your relaysh.

It sounds like you know that you want to end things for good, and if you’re sure that’s the case—which is totally valid—your girlfriend is right about doing it now. There’s no need to drag things out! Staying with someone with the intention of breaking up later puts a damper on the entire relationship, and it will only make things more confusing for both of you. It also has the potential to lead to more fights, which means things could end on a really bad note instead of the seemingly clean break you can make now. The fact that your girlfriend is aware of all of this and seems cool with staying friends is even more of a reason to bite the bullet and end things soon—I think you’ll have a much better chance of keeping her in your life that way. I know this is short, but sometimes the best answer is the most simple. Good luck!


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