“how am i supposed to explain to my girlfriend that i met someone else and no longer want to marry/have babies with/get a dog with her..”
- Question submitted by Anonymous
I mean, I don’t care how you do it, but do it now before you start boning the other girl. Be prepared for your boo to hate you and hate your new girl and say really fucked up and mean things and not want to be your friend.
You have to be honest with her… If you just say ‘it’s not working out’ and then she sees you loling and kissing the neck of some slutty broad on 15th street, she’s going to feel like the biggest piece of shit in the world.
Here’s the thing about being broken up with…you feel shitty. You feel awful, you feel not good enough.
Here’s the thing about being lied to… you feel shitty, disrespected, worthless and angry.
Here’s the thing about being broken up with, lied to and cheated on… you want to kill someone, you feel worthless, you feel shitty, you feel disrespected, you feel not good enough, you feel torn (imalloutoffaiththisishowifeelimcoldandiamshamedlyingnakedonthefloor)
Don’t make her feel these things. The truth of the matter is, you can’t control the way you feel, you can’t help that you fell for someone else and you can’t help that you’re not in love with her. You CAN control what you do about those feelings. Don’t dick your girlfriend over because it’s easy.
Talk to her.
(I have been watching a lot of Archer lately and can’t stop saying ‘yuuuuuup’ like Lana.)
This situation sucks, and there is no way forward that doesn’t involve hurting your girl and going through some hurt of your own. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can cushion the blow by leaving out truth, because you can’t and you shouldn’t.
If you care about your girlfriend, then you owe her the entire truth…and you should find the strength to listen to her long list of expletive-ridden fury, confusion, and pain, and still be able to assure her that you care about her and you are sorry that things have unraveled. Stay strong in the fact that you are doing everything you can to handle the situation properly; you are being honest at the first sign that things are not right and you are telling her before doing anything that would have otherwise shattered her trust.
When you are in a relationship with someone, you impact not only the way they viewthat relationship…you are also impacting the way they will view future relationships. Shit happens, and when it does it seems like nothing will ever be right again…but when you manage to keep compassion and respect at the forefront of your decisions, you will help keep things positive for both of you in the future.
I italicized so many words up there, but I am too tired to go back and modify them, so…JUST DEAL WITH MY OVEREMPHASIS. #overemphasiswednesday