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"What do I do if my girlfriend has gotten a tattoo I don’t like and plans on getting more? (I don’t mind tattoos in general fyi, just uglyish ones). We have toootally different tastes aesthetically. Wondering how to deal/ not hurt her feelings/ not lie. :/ hm."

- Question submitted by Anonymous

Dannielle Says:

I would lie.

I mean, I NEVER LIE. ABOUT ANYTHING. EVEN LITTLE DUMB SHIT SO AS TO NOT HURT PEOPLE’S FEELINGS, but I would lie. Because here is the thing, it is on her body FOREVER…foooo-rrr-eeee-vvv-errrr #sandlot

How would you feel if you were like WOOHOO LOOK AT THIS THING I GOT INKED INTO MY SKIN FOREVER and your boobear was like ‘that shit is dumb’? You would feel terrible and you would know every single day for the rest of your relationship that there was something about you that your lover hated…

Which has GOT to be an awful feeling. If you just can’t bear to even half lie to the girl you could very tactfully say something like ‘i love that you have this tattoo’ …because you love her and you love the way she expresses herself, and you are not TECHNICALLY SAYING THAT YOU LOVE THE TATTOO ITSELF.

Plus then you’ll have great ammo for a yelling/throwingstuff/scream-cry break up: ‘AND YOUR TATTOO IS STUPID’ … you know?

p.s. i wonder how many people are about to turn to their boobears and ask if they like their tattoo and then say ‘DON’T. LIE.’

Kristin Says:

I’m still laughing about Dannielle calling you ‘lovers’.

Does anyone else remember on The L Word how Dawn Denbo constantly introduced her girlfriend as “My LOVER Cindi”? IT WAS THE WORST AND FUNNIEST, and that is what I am reminded of… soooo…

Moving on.

I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD DO.

It’s like, on the one hand, I don’t want you to say you like it, because that is just lying and then when she gets seven more you won’t be able to lie anymore and you’ll explode and tell her that you actually hated them all along and she will be so mad because SHE didn’t even like them but thought YOU did and NOW YOU RUINED HER WHOLE SKIN.

On the other hand, you can’t very well tell her that it’s ugly because it will hurt her and she probably won’t have an easy time dealing with that slash saving the money to get it removed.

So. YOU SHOULD INVENT A NEW THING CALLED ‘TATTOO BLIND,’ WHICH IS LIKE BEING COLOR BLIND BUT YOU CAN’T SEE TATTOOS. THEN YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIE.

{clears throat}

This is what happens when I answer questions at night, you guys. Seriously, though, I think you have to find a way to say, “We have different tastes but I support what you need to do for yourself. I can’t tell you that I would put the same things on my own body, but this is your body and I love you.”

If you try that and then she comes home with seventeen versions of Mickey Mouse ears on her forehead, don’t come complaining to us. We aren’t professionals.

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