"What do you wear on a first date? Especially if you’re not particularly ‘butch’ or ‘femme’ — help!"
- Question submitted by Anonymous
OH GOD I REMEMBER WHEN I DIDN’T WEAR THE CLOTHES I WEAR NOW BUT ALSO DIDN’T WEAR DRESSES AND I NEVER KNEW WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELF.
I owned a lot of spongebob themed clothing, my favorite strawberry shortcake shirt and of course, my closet would not be complete without multiple pairs of flare jeans from old navy…
The most important thing is to feel comfortable. I remember trying to look really nice and feeling like a total idiot bc i was so uncomfortable in whatever dumb blouse i was wearing. AND LIKE WHAT IS THE POINT EVEN. You’re lucky because it’s winter and layers are awesome. Sweaters, we all love sweaters, are totally gender neutral / unisex / whatever you wanna call it. Button-up shirts look good on everyone and don’t have to qualify as girlish or boyish or whatevish. I used to spend HOURS on mens style blogs trying to figure out how i wanted to dress and I totally recommend it. Look up any and all celebs/ style blogs / magazines that you love and see what the peeps are wearing.
It sounds really stupid, but usually after an hour or so of looking you’ll figure out that some of your clothes can actually look really good together and you won’t feel so crazy. Just be comfortable and look like you tried a little bit, you know?
If someone is asking you on a date it’s because there is ALREADY something they like about you, keep that in mind.
This question makes me wish I ran a company where we got to come over and help you pick out clothes for your dates, IT SOUNDS LIKE SO MUCH FUN, and if we were doing that right now we could post a montage scene of you in 40 different outfits to the tune of the latest Britney Spears song, you know?!?!
Dannielle is right – comfort is the key in dressing for a date. You already have to grapple with things like conversation and where to go and how to not talk about your ex too much and how not to trip on the tiny stair leading into the restaurant, so you should at least get to feel comfortable in your own skin.
If it is a casual date, which I would imagine it will be, wear your favorite pair of jeans, your favorite “i-didn’t-pay-attention-to-this-but-it-looks-totally-fly-on-accident” shirt, and some sneakers or boots, and call it a day. What matters is that you are yourself and in the clothes you would wear if you were meeting up with your friends.
No one that I have ever met goes on a first date and comes home and says, “Well, I really liked her, but I couldn’t tell if she was butch or femme, so, I don’t think I am going to see her again.”
In related news, I just googled “First Date Outfit,” and the third most popular image is an outfit that appears to be an easily-removable dress with specified matching lingerie for underneath the dress. So, according to google slash the world, things will be fine so long as you like your underwear choice and your clothes come off easily.