“So I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about two years now, and I am absolutely head-over-heels for her, as I always have been. She feels the same way about me, but ever since we started dating, we've had a sort of agreement that we would end the relationship before we started college. Now that day is fast approaching, and I'm realizing that I really don't want to lose her. I don't know if she's changed her mind, though. Our colleges are also a few hours apart. Do you guys think it would be better for all if we did break up, and start afresh in college? Do you think I should even talk to her about it, or let it bappen? Sorry this was so long.”
-Question submitted by Anonymous
First and foremost, you said ‘let it bappen’ and I want that to be on an everyoneisgay button…so, let’s work that out.
Second and secondlymost, be honest with the way your feeling. If you’re head over heels for this girl after two years, you have something special that not a lot of people experience, after two years, a ton of people are just comfortable, so they deal with it. You should talk to her and be like ‘yo boo, i’m still feelin you’ and why WOULDN’T you at least want to try making it work? You don’t have to force anything. If it’s too hard, it’s too hard.
That being said. I’m a firm believer you should go to college single. If you’re spending every weekend visiting your boo, you’re missing out on college, and I think it’s a great experience. I’m not saying you have to bone a ton of sorority girls, but being on a college campus and having that isn’t something you can do for the rest of your life. LDR’s take a lot of work, and it’s not always something you want to deal with when your life is completely changing.
but like. love is love is love is love, yall.
If you have been with this girl for two years and things are going wonderfully then you absolutely should talk to her about her feelings on the matter. There is no healthy way to break off a functioning relationship, regardless of whether you are going to be far apart. Talk to her and suss out the situation. Don’t just let it bappen.
If she wants to stay with you, set some ground rules before you go away and stick to them. Make sure to have weekends where you go out with your friends on campus, and give her the same freedom.
Examples of experiences you should be able to have without damaging the stability of your potential long-distance relationship: spilling purple mystery punch all over your sleeping roommate, peeing in snowed-over bushes behind the library, throwing balled-up socks out of fifth-floor dorm windows while video-taping the reactions of passers-by, eating last night’s pizza for breakfast, using chocolate syrup to re-adhere the broken tile on your dorm room floor, and studying with a lampshade on your head just for fun.
Fucking, I LOVE COLLEGE, you guys.